Jude Colbenson: I don't have children, but my parents divorced when I was a school-age kid. It was somewhat confusing to me, because I wasn't told about it directly. One of my step-parents just informed me that we were suddenly moving to a different city, and that the other parent would be coming along "soon". But the other parent never came. They had divorced. I waited and waited, expecting the other parent to come. Finally, when I worked up the nerve to ask if they had divorced, I was given a very cold "yes". I was never permitted to play the "child of divorce" card, though. My grades were expected to be at the top of my class, just as they had been in the past. I was never to speak of the divorce. I was not to whine, cry or misbehave in any way, nor was I to use the divorce as an excuse for poor behavior. I can't say that I wasn't baffled and bewildered by the divorce (primarily because I had thought they were getting along just fine), but I had to cope with it or face! the consequences. So I did....Show more
Lana Uliano: it's very difficult for children especially if the parents act like children but if you can be civil and everyone can get along then your kids learn how to handle separation and divorce with maturity and it shows them that just because the relationship didn't work out life isn't over people can move on and be happy.
Rebeca Mckin: Divorce can effect children in a negative or positive way. I'll tell you a story and maybe this will help. There were 2 brothers in a family where the wife had divorced the husband because of violent abuse and alcoholism. The husband landed in jail for 10 years because he had assaulted somebody and had a violent criminal history. One brother grew up exactly like his father. He had abused his girlfriends had a violent tendency towards individuals and was eventually convicted and sent to prison. When asked why he had grew up this way, he answered "With a father like that how could you ! expect me to be anything less"? The second brother was the com! plete opposite. He had a wife and 2 kids, was an excellent father and had a happy marriage. He was also very successful. When asked the same question, he answered " With a father like that how could you expect me to be anything less?" My cousins who are like my brothers and sisters went through a very messy divorce and came out very successful. Of course there was a lot of trial and tribulations and we went through alot together growing up but i can see how everything made us stronger. Please don't lose hope and i know everything will work out....Show more
Tijuana Tatsak: Depends how old the children are?? I tried my best to keep things normal for them and made sure they had contact with their Dad even though he didnt want to know at first, I used to ring him and tell him so about visiting the children etc and now they have a fantastic relationship. Put my feelings to one side when it came to them didnt want them to suffer as it was between their dad and me not them!
Avis Brantner: In a Divorce you learn the POWER of a PRENUP, and will teach the kids to pick up a good LAWYER after MOM takes DADDY to the Cleaners.
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